I am not the picture perfect example of what a happy mom should be like.
In the past 5 months since bringing my child into this world, I have cried at least twice a week, I have felt complete loss of control over my “schedule”, I have plopped my child on my husband’s lap and shut myself up in the loo and stared at the walls. I have done it all. But here I am, trying to fight a good fight! Can’t lose who I am in the process of becoming a good mom now, can I?!
When I don’t want to push my boundaries anymore, I just tell myself that I cannot be a happy mom if I am not a happy person. And an unhappy mom seldom bringeth up (lol!what?) a happy baby!!
Here are a few things I do. Simple things. No extra frills. Saying it like it is.
1. Stretch your body – two minutes after you wake up/two minutes after you put baby to sleep/two minutes before hopping into the shower. WHAT THIS DOES FOR ME – Childbirth is difficult. Being pregnant for 9+ months is hard work for the body. Stretching relaxes my tight muscles. Muscles that are tired from bearing the weight of a baby inside the body and now outside.
2. Comb your hair – I feel guilty putting this out there. Before baby D was born, I read jokes about mom buns and always assumed that wouldn’t be me. Well, was I in for a not so pleasant surprise! So wake up, and comb your hair. WHAT THIS DOES FOR ME – It makes me feel put together. It’s unbelievable how little time you can have for yourself when you have a tiny to care for. Pre – baby, I could spend at least 20 minutes doing my makeup and hair every morning. Looks like a far fetched dream now. It’s a lucky day if I can take a 5 minute shower! Just by combing my hair and not looking disheveled instantly makes things better!
3. Plaaaannnksss!! – Sorry, but you knew the “exercise” point was lurking around somewhere in this list! But I’m not going to say you need to work out for at least 30 minutes, 5 times a week. Because that rule doesn’t apply only to moms, it applies to EVERYBODY. WHAT THIS DOES FOR ME – In between finding out what exactly this new normal means to us and our baby’s schedule changing at the drop of a hat AND being sleep deprived, thirty minutes of exercise is a lot to ask for. In come planks. No equipment required. No previous experience required. Easy to learn. Strengthens the core. Google more about all the benefits of this “super” exercise. If your doctor clears it, you’re in for a treat!
4. Drink water – Simple. Nothing else to it really! But very easy to forget. Especially if you don’t live in a very hot place. WHAT THIS DOES FOR ME – Keeps the headaches away. Keeps the skin clear. Keeps the bowels moving right!!
5. Set a pamper day – Doesn’t need to be one whole day. Rather, CANNOT be one whole day, LoL! Just wash your hair, clip your nails and do a face mask. WHAT THIS DOES FOR ME/HOW I DO IT – Daddy takes care of baby D on Sundays. So I take a couple of hours off mommy duty to pamper myself. I am a mask junkie, so I do at least two rounds of masking! I also wash and deep condition my hair. Makes me feel good. Relaxed. Ready for a new week!
These are the things I found helpful in keeping me partially sane! I’m still very new to this game. Still trying to figure things out. Growing everyday!